Learn how you're originally wired & unlearn the conditioning that is holding you back from being who you truly are.
That good girl who used to please everyone to be worthy of her existence...
Some things happen for a reason.
Me discovering Human Design was definitely one of them.
Rewind to January 2014.
My anxiety levels rose to unprecedented heights.
I couldn't leave my house anymore. I felt so exhausted from the sleep deprivation that I actually thought of ending it all.
I missed my brother's wedding.
I felt ashamed and worthless.
How was this possible?
In all those years, up to well in my thirties, I did everything right.
I did everything I could to make people around me happy, to not step on their toes, and to do what was expected from me.
And that was precisely the problem.
I wasn't me anymore. I forgot who I was. I'm not sure if I ever knew who I was.
The thing is: it started even before I was born. My conception was an accident, and although my parents loved me and cared for me (they still do), I never felt welcome in this world.
I felt like I was a mistake. I believed that I had to deserve my place in the world, that nothing came for free.
I was petrified to be a burden to others. Disappointing others felt like I was going to die.
People-pleasing: this was the survival technique I mastered into perfection.
It saved my life as a kid, but almost killed me as an adult.
Until my body said: "No more."
The anxiety and tension were unbearable. I couldn't function anymore. I couldn't sleep.
And so, I finally sought help.
For once, I had to learn to let go of control and let someone else help me, instead of me helping others.
It was life-changing.
But I still had a lot of work to do in the years after that rock-bottom moment.
Slowly and steadily (often fast in the eyes of others), I started unlearning a lot of my early-life conditioning, and discovering bits and pieces of who I truly am.
Fast-forward into early 2019: my grandmother — my biggest fan and cheerleader — died at the age of 88. She didn't have an easy life, but she was always supportive of me. Grieving her led me to be still for a while. And then it happened...
"I'm 100% sure that you only want what's best for your clients. A person like you, I want to keep close to me."
I know now — and I know this may sound a bit woo woo — that my grandmother was guiding me in the right direction.
Everything changed after that.
I finally felt like I uncovered a big part of myself. I experienced a lot of aha-moments (still!) and found a new passion that I can live on for many, many years to come.
Unlearning and de-conditioning became the main focus of my very existence.
Step by step, day by day, I am discovering my true self, and it has given me back my resilience, my joy, my power, and my freedom.
This fascinating and adventurous — although, with times, quite uncomfortable — journey has given me the opportunity to not only love myself but also to create enough space to pay forward the lessons I learned and the insights I gathered.
These days, I'm studying Human Design fulltime, as well as systemic coaching, and family constellations.
Initially, I've grown from being a vocal coach for 12 years, into a business and life coach.
It is my mission to help as many people as I can to unlearn the harmful conditioning that is holding us back from being who we truly are.
I'm based in Belgium but I work online with clients from all over the world. Most of my clients are entrepreneurs, just like me, but if you don't have a business (yet): you too are welcome if my work resonates with you.
I speak both English and Dutch (native language).
I love to write. And I love to share with you my latest insights and experience as a solopreneur on a mission. You will receive an e-mail whenever I feel inspired. Also, it's free.